I won’t lie I was really beginning to get worried. There wasn’t a high risk MFM doc, OB or nurse that I had encountered over the past 6 weeks that I didn’t hate. And it wasn’t basic hate, it was hate based out of fear. Fear that they weren’t paying attention to the details and thus would eventually let something important just slip by that in the end would be a contributing factor to me losing this pregnancy.
My fear is that they simply have no vested interest in keeping me pregnant to ensure that I get to keep this one. Because at the end of their day no matter what happens to me, they drive home to their house filled with babies and children. They won’t be forced to live a childless life if I don’t stay pregnant.
My gamble on going back to the OB who did my D&E with Ava 2 years ago paid off big. She had not only read my file, but had also reviewed the notes her nurse took when I met with her last week-BEFORE she walked into the room with me.
Say what?
Yup.
Get the eff out.
Nope. True story.
She came in knowing everything-except what had transpired at the crap ass nuchal appointment on friday-and was clearly not impressed when I filled her in.
We talked, she asked questions, I asked questions, I posed scary scenarios that I think in my head, she went along with scary scenarios and came up with solutions that would debunk the scary scenarios and in the end I walked out of there with….
# 1. A bandaid on my arm from the Rho Gam shot because I have been bleeding all through out this pregnancy and am RH- while hubby is RH+ so apparently I should have had this shot back in November BUT NO ONE PICKED UP ON THAT AT THE FANCY SCHMANCY HIGH RISK PLACE.
# 2. 6 booked appointments over the next 4 weeks to check my cervix to ensure it isn’t incompetent and for the Triple Screen to detect NTD’s.
# 3. An RX for Lovenox that will get me through 27 more weeks of pregnancy because as she so succinctly stated “I have no interest in taking you off Lovenox at all, why mess with what is clearly WORKING?”
# 4. A bottle of glucola for the 1 hr glucose test I will be taking at 16 weeks due to being on steroids for the last 4 months she wants to rule out an early on set of gestational diabetes.
# 5. (And most important) A general sense that this woman actually gives a shit.
The downside to all of this (of course there’s a downside, there always is), and the reason why I didn’t just booked with this OB in the first place-If I make it all the way to delivery, and have a natural delivery, chances are roughly 20% that for delivery I will get the OB in this practice who I despise for really doing me wrong on three separate occasions during my pregnancy with Ava. I don’t trust her, her opinion and definitely hate her.
The upside? I am hoping that if I get that far, I can convince my OB that after 38 week of gestating this baby in my body (that I clearly just don’t trust) that it’s probably FAR better for everyone involved that the baby be OUTSIDE rather than in. So maybe she will be amenable to making a schedule (based on her on-call shift) to take me off of the lovenox and then bring me in 24 hours later to be induced.
One can only hope.
monopolichronicles said:
usually they put you on heparin two weeks before the due date and then you continue after you give birth for a few weeks. Why would they take you off?
Brooke said:
The MFM doc and the first OB i met with both wanted me to come off after the first trimester because they believe I have no reason to be on lovenox since I only had a bordeline test result their belief is that it isn’t enough to warrant the “dangers” of being on a blood thinner during pregnancy.
aprilvak said:
That is so great! I know it was such a weight off me when I finally, finally found a doctor who would listen to everything I said and even ask me how I felt about different options. I’m super happy for you!
Hope said:
I’m so glad that this OB finally listend and is keeping you on the love.nox. That is a battle I am going to have to fight with someone, because even though I have 3 genetic clotting disorders, my doctors think they are all “minor”. And from what I’ve read and seen, if they keep you on love.nox/heparin all the way through, they induce at 39 weeks, so they can control how long you are off it. So hopefully you will get your wish on that count, as well.
Lindsey said:
I’m so glad you found someone you can trust. Its amazing how much a Dr. just listening to you can decrease your stress. I actually had a long talk with my OB about that yesterday in regards to a pediatrician and she gave me several numbers of people she knew would listen rather than blowing off my concerns. We’ve worked our asses off for these pregnancies/babies, we deserve to be listened to!
Nichole said:
Thank god, hallelujah. It is about time someone cared enough to review your file prior to meeting with you.
Rachelle said:
Um, how tf did no one pick up on the Rh stuff? Classic questions from *any* ob at the first blood workup!
Sounds like she is a gem! I’ve never ever found a decent OB who’d treat the whole. If you are very worried about delivery, talk to this OB about and tell her how stress you are about delivering with this other woman. You are a special case and you might be surprised by her answers.
Glad you found a good one! I think I’ve given up…
Mary Margaret Pierce said:
I am so, so glad that she cares. I’m sure you will never “relax” (and who blames you?!), but at least know there is one other person who understands, and is vested in making sure you bring home your baby boy!
Trisha said:
I am so glad that you found at least one Dr that her shit together. That is my biggest pet peeve through all these processes, most really don’t seem to care, as long as they get paid at the end of the day. I’m glad you found someone that is listening to YOUR needs and YOUR opinions. That is so important in a doctor.
Amy K. said:
Thank god you got some good news. You deserve this and much, much more.
I never understand why the fuck the doctor NEVER reads the file before they come in the room. Seriously.
C said:
I got way too hot under the collar to post a comment last week about this. Still am super upset that medical peeps keep treating you with a ridiculous lack of professional courtesy and basic reading skills. You are a paying client! However, I am terribly pleased that you have found a good place to start, a good scanning schedule, and that they are not discontinuing Lovenox. Amen.
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